The Saratogian - News - 04/02/2006 - Family marks Missing Person Day
04/02/2006
Family marks Missing Person Day
JIM KINNEY , The Saratogian
MILTON -- Doug Lyall remembers going to University at Albany police within a day of not hearing from his daughter, Suzanne.
The police there kept telling him that 23 UAlbany students had been reported missing already that year, and they all returned after a few days with some story of a road trip or staying in a friend's room.
'They kept saying she'd come back,' Lyall said. 'But we knew she wasn't the type. She didn't fall asleep in the library.'
Suzanne hasn't come back. Now eight years later, Doug and Mary Lyall have dedicated themselves to helping the families of other missing people, passing laws ensuring that incidents of missing college students are
investigated seriously. They even distribute handbooks for college police officers who deal with missing person's cases.
The investigation into Suzanne's disappearance has been sparse, though. Her father said she was last seen getting off a bus at Collins Circle on the University at Albany's uptown Campus. She'd just left her job at a computer store at Crossgates Mall. Another woman getting on the bus recognized Suzanne from their dorm, Doug said.
'We've talked to her over the years. I don't know if she knew Suzy's name,' he said.
Since then, state police have released photos of Suzanne Lyall's jewelry and, in 2005, a computer aged photo.
Police still interview people. Doug Lyall said Suzanne's boyfriend and his family no longer cooperate with investigators, though.
'I don't know why,' he said. 'All the questions are to find out if anyone remembers anything.'
The Lyalls also work with many people who find themselves members of the same, awful club of people with missing loved ones.
This is a busy time for the Lyalls. They mark Missing Person Day at 1 p.m. today in the auditorium at the State Museum in Albany. They will break ground for 'Remembrance,' a monument to the estimated 4,000 people
listed as missing in New York state. When it opens in the fall, it'll be the first of its kind in the nation.
'We've been to one in Ireland,' Doug Lyall said.
Mary Lyall said she's invited hundreds of people with missing family members to today's ceremony, which coincides with Suzanne's birthday. It has become an annual event over the past several years. Politicians and a bagpiper will attend, too.
At one point, family members will step forward and take a yellow rose representing their missing loved one.
Relatives who have learned, generally because remains have been found, that their missing loved ones are dead take a single red rose.
'It's very emotional,' Mary Lyall said. 'Some people can't participate. Some people come one time and can't come back.' She said she invited the family of Christina N. White.
'I don't know if she'll be able to come,' Lyall said.
White disappeared from Milton last July at the age of 19. Her skeleton was found March 10 in Daketown State Forest. She'd been stabbed. The Saratoga County Sheriff's Office is investigating the case as a homicide.
'Closure is a bad word,' Mary Lyall said. 'You never get closure; you get answers. When you talk to someone where they have found a loved one's remains, they'll tell you, 'Well, I have one answer.' '
The pain people in this situation go through is palpable in postings to the Web site at the Lyalls' Center for HOPE.
One reads:
'Missing son, 21 yrs. 6-2 135 lbs... last spoke dec. 05. Please call r u ok? need help? Where are u. u need to know we love you. god bless. any help?'
Ballston Spa Mayor John Romano says it amazes him how Doug and Mary Lyall can work with people going through this pain when they have suffered such a loss themselves.
'When you talk to them, they are just calm, kind, gentle people,' Romano said. 'You don't sense any anger.'
Doug Lyall said some people in his situation do feel a lot of anger, sometimes directed at police for not doing enough. Other people direct that anger inward.
Mary Lyall said, 'This situation breaks up marriages. It ruins families. Sometimes it brings out medical problems. I think it's the stress.'
It's one reason the Lyalls have put out a pamphlet of advice, 'What do I do if my loved one is missing.' It tells people, yes, they can have a missing persons report filed and to insist that police file a report. Because of
Suzanne's Law, a federal statute passed in 2003 and named for Suzanne Lyall, every police agency is required to enter a missing person under the age of 21 into the National Crime Investigation Center. That way, if a missing college student gets pulled over or shows up at a hospital or morgue without
identification, police will know.
Lyall said it took three days for UAlbany Campus police to bring in state police investigators.
'They just weren't set up to deal with it,' he said.
He also said it took too long for the University to put up missing posters around campus. He blames it on being March, a time when families tour with prospective freshmen.
'It's not the best PR,' he said. 'It's a business and I understand that.'
The Lyalls have worked with the state to develop a handbook for police officer. The phonebook-sized document covers everything from how to use dogs and helicopters to how best to set up missing posters.
Lyall said he's shown it to police around the country. 'Everybody who sees it wants a copy,' he said. 'We're hoping that they take a look at it and use it.'
Saratoga County District Attorney James A. Murphy III said changing the way police deal with cases of missing college students is probably the Lyalls' greatest accomplishment.
'We hope that they will be able to continue working with all of us in law enforcement,' Murphy said.
The Center for HOPE is at 20 Prospect St., Ballston Spa. The phone number is 884-8761.
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