Police, family turn to Internet in search of missing woman
By Christine Byers
ST. LOUIS POST-DISPATCH
04/07/2007
DE SOTO  Hubert and Bertha Propst looked at each other, looked at the floor and finally at their hands as they searched for the words to describe what their life has been like since their daughter, Amanda Jones, vanished nearly two years ago.
"It's kind of like a plague has come over us," said Hubert Propst, 60, as he raised his head.
It has afflicted their minds and bodies. Invaded their faith in people. Eroded their family relationships.
But the Propsts haven't given in to hopelessness.
That's why they, along with the Jefferson County Sheriff's Office, are trying a new way to prompt anyone who has information about their daughter to come forward. They have created a page, "Finding Amanda Jones," on the popular website
MySpace hoping someone may post the clues police need to bring Jones home.
On Aug. 14, 2005, Jones, who was 26 and nine months pregnant, told her mother she was going to the Hillsboro Civic Center to meet Bryan Lee Westfall, the man she believed was the father of her unborn son. Westfall, a former college instructor, has denied being the father and told police he had left Jones where the two met, at the horse show grounds of the civic center.
Police found Jones' unlocked car, with her purse inside, at the civic center. No one has reported seeing Jones since, and no one has been charged in her disappearance.
"We've tried everything conventional," said Lt. Tommy Wright. "And now we're trying something unconventional. We're so close, but we lack certain pieces of the puzzle. Is this the panacea to find those missing links? I don't know. Only time will tell."
Along with providing a place to post clues with relative anonymity, the site also serves as a tribute to Jones, who was a divorced mother of a 4-year-old daughter at the time of her disappearance.
Several friends and family members, including the Propsts, already have posted messages on the site, which also keeps count of the days, the minutes and the seconds she has been missing  or for her parents, the amount of time they have been plagued with worry.
Initially, they tried to keep the mobile home in Pevely that their daughter shared with her daughter, where the child's drawings lined the walls and covered the refrigerator.
But paying two mortgages became too difficult.
The couple spent about a month last summer going through their daughter's belongings and preparing to sell her place. They kept some things  including her Herculaneum High School mug  and donated her clothes to area nonprofits. They also sold their own home, in Festus, and moved to a smaller home in De Soto.
"Every time we went there (Jones' home), I could barely walk through the door," said Bertha Propst, 51.
The stress also has taken a physical toll on the couple. A knee replacement surgery Bertha Propst had shortly after her daughter's disappearance has yet to heal properly. Hubert Propst, once an avid runner, has gained weight and is having problems with his short-term memory.
At times, he has come home to find his wife of 32 years sitting alone in the dark, "Like she's in a trance."
"It isn't like a death, because you don't know where she's at or what happened to her," Bertha Propst explained.
"And you don't want to think of her as dead," Hubert Propst added. "Just gone."
At least one aspect of moving has brought comfort to Hubert Propst. He said he no longer looked out his kitchen window and imagined his daughter's car pulling into his driveway.
They have set up a room for their granddaughter with a picture of her mother on the nightstand. The little girl they once saw as much as four times a week is now 6 and has seen her grandparents only a handful of times since her mother disappeared  a privilege the Propsts said they had to go to court to earn now that she is in her father's custody in St. Louis.
Each time the girl does come for a visit, she goes to the picture of her mother, kisses it and says, "I love you, Mommy." She named a stuffed bear her grandparents gave her Hayden  the name of the little brother she never met.
Along with their granddaughter, the Propsts have struggled to maintain the relationships they once had with other family members. Frequent family get-togethers have dwindled under the cloud of knowing someone isn't there, Hubert Propst said.
Some family members criticized Amanda Jones' sister, Carrie, for having a picture of her sister on the altar at her wedding in July and for having a moment of silence at the reception, saying it overshadowed her day as the bride.
The Propsts also are having difficulty with relationships beyond their family.
"We've become very bitter, and we don't trust anyone," Bertha Propst said as she recalled stories of people calling to offer tips that have led nowhere, including one that came from a prisoner in Jennings who claimed to know where Jones was buried.
Hubert Propst went to the jail to meet him and still wonders if there was any truth to the man's claims. And just last week, the couple met with another man who said he had pictures of Jones in a park. The images turned out not to be of her.
"When it's your daughter, you'll do anything, go anywhere to try and find her," Hubert Propst said.
Now, they hope the Internet will produce some clues.
"I hope and pray that the person who has the information will find it in their heart to bring it forward," Bertha Propst said, pausing to wipe her tears. "To help us get closure and peace back into our lives."
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